Read time: 3.5 min • 3/28/16 • by Michael
My cat is EVIL!
Well...
She can be.
In this article, we'll talk about what my cat does and how it relates to this phenomenon called relationships.
So, let's get into it.
One moment she jumps up on the couch, climbs up my torso and lays on my chest and falls sound asleep. And then, later that day, she comes out of no where and claws one of my ankles as I'm walking to kitchen to get something to drink.
What this made me realize about relationships: The way we feel in relationships are momentous. Meaning, we feel a certain way towards our partner now, and later, its just different. Feelings come and go. We're human.
Its nothing to break up over.
Occasionally, she claws the outside of my bedroom door. She does this when she's hungry or wants water. And other times, she does this when she just wants to come in my room and hang out.
Well, there was a time (more than once, actually) when I got out of bed before her paw came through the door. I opened the door and walked to the kitchen and noticed that her bowl was empty.
I pivoted left, so I can get her food from the bottom of the cupboard. On the way there, she comes out of nowhere (again), grabs one of my ankles with a kung-fu grip and starts gnawing on it for a few seconds before I shook her off.
What this made me realize about relationships: The man or the woman will do irrational things if they haven't eaten all day, or if food isn't in the near future. Sometimes, they'll even break up for a day, and send silly text back and forth expressing themselves to each other about (fake) problems when it was all about food.
Sometimes, the solution to stop a meaningless argument is to eat something.
There are times when Fluffy rubs herself against me. She shows me a lot of love even when her bowl has fresh food and water left.
But when I want to show her love?
Here's what happens...
I walk over to her, squat down, and I "gently" start rubbing her head and her belly. And then, she'll start biting my hand and would run 70mph into the living room or wherever.
What this made me realize about relationships: Let's be honest about this. People want affection when they want it, and they want it less when they want their own space.
Its rare that a couple feels affectionate in the same moment. This is especially true when they're years into the relationship.
This is normal.
Once the romance starts to wear off, your commitment to each other is what you'll have left.
Fluffy hisses at other people—not everyone, but she's not really friendly with just anybody. Before I got her spayed, she would meow really loud at 2am, and the neighborhood cats would be in my backyard waiting to, you know?
Right?
I had to put her in the lanai.
She was just too loud.
Anyway, the male cats would come, and she would scare them away as if she liked the attention, but didn't want it. Weird.
What this made me realize about relationships: It makes you feel special and secure when your partner doesn't show or have an interest for other people.
It makes you feel really good when your partner acts this way in public too.
There are times that I would just ignore my cat, Fluffy.
I'll come home after a day of work, and she would be right there waiting for me. But I'll go straight to the bedroom to take a nap and not show her any attention.
After I get undressed and lay down, she would scratch at the door for a few moments before stopping.
I'll wake up from my nap an hour or so later and go look for her.
After thinking she's lost, I would finally find her on a seat under the dining room table, or behind a table in the corner of the living room.
And she wouldn't want anything to do with me.
What this made me realize about relationships: If we ignore our partner when they are openly showing us attention, its not fair to think they'll show us attention when we're ready. You don't want to end up being awake really late at night wondering what you should text to get your ex back.
We should compromise.
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— Mike
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