AVG RT: 4.4 min - 6/27/15 - by Michael
What is the "beginning of all things?"
Its the love of oneself.
Knowing that...
I have a question to ask you: Do you love yourself?
If your answer is no, please keep reading. If you've answered yes, I have another question for you: Do you love yourself before any additives?
What does "before any additives" mean?
Loving yourself before any additives means to love yourself before adding anything or anyone to your life that may make you feel better.
Now, I know what you're thinking.
Adding money, genuine people or being in a relationship with someone who's amazing can definitely make us happy.
And you're right.
But I'll further explain what I mean in a moment.
Loving yourself after adding something into your life that will make you feel better about yourself may be an illusion of love.
But first...
Here are some examples of additives.
Did you love yourself before:
Happiness amongst other emotions can be found in all of these things, but this happiness that's found outside of ourselves won't last very long.
And the reason is fairly simple.
Things that we add to our lives almost always come with a feel-good emotion, but those new feelings will gradually fade over time.
And then...
We may inherently be in search of something else to produce a similar feeling. This will continue for as long as we feel the need to search for happiness outside of ourselves.
The key to having long-lasting happiness is to somehow create it from within.
But how?
How important do you feel in this world?
What are you worth to yourself?
And others?
The love you have for yourself is similar to the value of your self-worth.
Its how valuable you feel as a person before adding people or things to your life, and without the constant need for validation.
How valuable do you feel?
On the other hand...
The value of your self-esteem is based on the feedback you get from people. Being told how important you are to someone you care about or how attractive you appear to people is feedback that we feed off of.
Self-worth and self-esteem make up most of your value. Self-worth comes from within, and self-esteem comes from the feedback the outside world gives you.
Your self-esteem feeds your self-worth.
Question is... What is it feeding it?
Low self-esteem feeds low value to self-worth.
Having low self-worth can destroy the meaning of life, and sabotage relationships that would otherwise work out.
It will also decrease what your potential is perceived to be which will lower the effort you put forth to accomplish your personal goals, because you won't have the confidence to make a real effort.
Its a cycle.
A never ending one.
To break this cycle, you must realize...
We feed off of the feedback from others.
FACT.
Why fight this?
In order to get feedback that fills up your self-esteem and self-worth, you can give.
Not money or stuff...
...but your time.
Your ears.
Your heart.
Understand that most of the people in your life simply want to be heard and understood, and to feel loved.
Give that to them.
In turn, you will feel amazing.
And then, you can add things to your life that may make you feel better... BUT the feeling from within won't lesson if you didn't have those things or lost it...
...because of the personal value you're adding to people's lives.
Unfortunately...
The love of oneself is a constant battle.
And that's because...
And the war you'll fight is unexpected reminders of your value.
You will encounter things that will raise or lower your self-esteem throughout the day.
For example: You may be reminded about how you look when you smell a fragrance, because you've associated that particular smell with someone who puts you down.
Whether its a poster of a person that looks better than us, a person telling us we suck at something we do or an intruding thought that instills doubt into our hearts, we are in a constant battle of replenishing our self-esteem.
Replenishing your self-esteem doesn't have to be constant battle if you're certain of who you are, what you're capable of and the value you add to other people's lives.
Who are you, though?
Can your self-worth answer that question, or do you need someone to tell you who you are?
Build your self-worth.
Develop a powerful sense of identity.
Find yourself and your passion, and be certain of what you can achieve regardless of what information you receive from your outside world.
Love yourself.
Realize your value, because you're valuable.
Don't pay any mind to the naysayers.
The more you become sure of yourself, the less you'll be affected by negative opinions. And truly loving yourself will be within your grasp.
The beginning of all things start with your self-esteem.
Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich
Desire is the start of all achievement, but desire can come and go on a daily basis.
The beginning of all things is a place where we live on a daily basis.
An inescapable place.
This place is ourselves.
Its the love of oneself.
THANK YOU for your time,
- Michael
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